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“Someone got raped. Are you happy about that? That someone was raped there.” – Emily’s story

My sister, her friend and I were out for a couple hours on a girls night. We made a late start to it since they were working so we didn’t get out until about 12:30. We had great time in the Market, a couple drinks and decided to head home, after last call. We missed the 95 so we decided to go to McDonald’s on Rideau to spend the rest of the 45 minute wait. The line ups were long as usual, so my sister asked about using the bathroom quickly while we waited. The cashier said it was for customer’s only and she said that’s fine we were ordering anyway.
She headed to the bathroom to see the wait there. “Out of Order For Customer Use Only” was on the door of the women’s washroom. She came back and ordered her food but asked to be able to go to the bathroom. The cashier then said “A woman got raped there last week so we don’t allow entry to the women’s washroom by themselves.” She was blown away by this, but it didn’t make much sense that we couldn’t use it. By this time, it’s been almost 30 minutes and she’s really feeling it, so I step in and say, I will escort her to the washroom, she really needs to use it. Another person, who may or may not have been the supervisor steps in and says “We don’t allow access to the women’s washroom at peak periods because someone got raped there last week.” I say “Ok, but she really needs to go, there is nowhere else for her to go and we have a 30 minute bus ride that we are still waiting for.” He responds with, “We aren’t letting anyone in. Someone got raped. Are you happy about that? That someone was raped there.”
I was blown away that he said that to me. “Of course, I’m not happy about that, but that doesn’t mean we can’t use the washroom, not even escorted? It sounds like you just don’t want to handle the crowds.” We argued about it for about 1 minute, where he repeated at least twice “Are you happy someone got raped?” until my sister starts getting upset. Who would we be happy someone got raped? Why would you ask us that?
Even if we were drunk, we don’t deserve to have that thrown in our face or being told what’s best for us. As a survivor, I find it particularly triggering. We leave and try the convenience store next door, the gentleman says “Absolutely not.” We try the Cash Money, who said because they are like a bank they can’t let us in. “Try McDonald’s.” These are the only 24 hour places we could find there.
We head back in to the Market, my sister is absolutely sure she won’t last the bus ride and we still have about a 10 minute wait.
Desperate, she ducks in to an alley and has to go there. Her friend and I stood guard for her. What would have happened had she been alone? If she had to go to the alley by herself, or if she absolutely couldn’t find somewhere to go? We’ve been out a ton of times in the Market and this is the first time this has even happened to us.
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New submission: Kiera’s story!

My friend and I were walking out of the Loblaws at College Square around 8pm on Wednesday when a group of guys pulled up in a car beside us. They rolled down the windows and the guy in the back seat started motioning for us to come over, while yelling “Hey! Hey,
I like you!” at us. My friend ignored it, but he kept yelling at us until I turned around and yelled “Well we don’t like you!”. At this point, his friends started laughing and they drove off.

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New submission: Kaleigh’s story!

Today my fiance and I were walking home around the Algonquin College residences. Two male students decided to shout out to us, or more accurately to my fiance, “Fuck her in the pussy!” They drove off too fast for us to respond. I am upset because I was disrespected and it felt like my fiance was disrespected just from his proximity to me.

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New submission: Sarah’s story (Yay bystander intervention!)

I was walking toward the bus stop on Rideau Street by the mall, when a man of about 25 yelled loudly at me (I had headphones in and still heard). He was yelling about how I had a “nice ass, and those hips he would like to see move in bed”. I was so shocked, all I could respond was “No thank you, please leave me alone”, as he proceeded to make sexual gestures. I was so disgusted, but when a man came up to me to make sure I was okay my faith in humanity was restored a little.

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New submission: Rachael’s story!

I was walking along the Canal near Hogsback Falls with my mom and my roommate when an older man riding his bike stopped directly in front of us, stared for a few seconds, and then said “Beautiful women, so many threesomes, so little time.” We didn’t respond (I wish I had), and he stayed on the path and stared at us from behind until we rounded the corner. So gross.

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New submission: Lauren’s story!

Walking out of Blair station on my way home from work, an older man pulled my purse from behind. When I turned around, he told me my belt was undone. He stood close to me and rubbed my waist and stomach. I tried to push his hand away and check my belt. The belt on my jacket was fine. Meanwhile, he kept grabbing my waist. I pushed him off and was too shocked to do anything else. I actually said “thanks for letting me know. I’ve got it now”. He said “you’re welcome” and walked off.

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New anonymous submission!

Getting told to suck your dick while on the phone with my grandma was a real class act on rideau & sussex tonight… Real class act dude, I gave him a piece of my mind! Sorry for the language grandma!

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New submission : Felicity’s story!

A while ago, I was walking home in Sandy Hill, and a couple of guys standing on the steps of a local bar yelled at me, “Hey sexy, where you going!” I proceeded to ignore them. They kept calling after me. When they didn’t get a smile or any flirtatious response back (I’m assuming that’s what they wanted), they proceeded to insult me and say “Fuck you. Bitch.” I was so angry and disgusted, I wanted to turn around and freak out at them, but I was way too scared for my own safety. This is just one instance of many that I have experienced.

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