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This one’s a double whammy. Was waiting for the 2 at Somerset and Bank and an older guy started talking to me, then gestured at his chest (miming boobs) and gave me a thumbs up. I said “Seriously?!” And moved away from him. Tons of people at the stop.
Then when I got on the bus, as I was texting a friend to tell her what happened, a man began mocking me for being on my phone. I told him I didn’t appreciate it, and he told me to lighten up.
Somerset West is the WORST for this crap.
I was on the 95 back from Barrhaven with a couple friends after getting sushi at the 1000 Islands when these 5 guys got on the bus. They sat around us (me and two friends) and began playing rap music loudly off one of their phones. They then looked over at us and began making comments, asking us about the song and other questions. It was at this point that I put my earphones in and listened to my own music, since rap irritates me.
A few minutes after, I saw one of the guys in front of me [I was in the back corner of the bus] holding his phone sideways and pointed at me. When I looked up, he pointed it down and I could see his shoes in the screen of his phone, a camera application.
My friends and I, at this point, were feeling very uncomfortable and very frightened, and one of my friends who had been sexually harassed before, was shaking. I told my other friend to keep her safe and I went up to tell the bus driver what was going on.
When cops stopped the bus to get us and the guys off at Baseline, my friends told me that the guys were making comments like “I want the one in the corner”, “The one with the blue hair [me] is mine”. I don’t know what the cops did, but I hope these men did not get away with what they did.
I was walking down rideau street with a friend of mine and as we got closer to the very angry looking man walking towards us, he yelled “YOU’RE BOTH FAT AND DISGUSTING! NO ONE WOULD TOUCH YOU!” we just looked at each other and the people around us and didn’t know what to do.
We had an amazing time at the Comic Book Shoppe Ladies night!
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TOMORROW, Sunday November 17th join us for Geek Girls Ladies’ Night at the Comic Book Shoppe!
A FREE store-wide private shopping event for female-identified, transgender, and genderqueer customers. All ages welcome. DISCOUNTS, LOOTBAGS, TREATS, COSTUME CONTEST, GEEK MANICURES, GAMING, and mini CRAFT FAIR!
Check out the Facebook event page for more information!
What are we doing there? We’ll be handing out information on how to be an effective bystander, giving out pins AND documenting your experiences of street harassment, both in general and specifically within Geek-spaces. (ie: PopExpo, ComicCons, gaming tournaments, etc).
In the spirit of the amazing work our sister site Philly is doing, we want to open up a conversation about safety for women and queer identified geeks! See below for a video compilation of CosPlayers discussing the harassment they experience in Geek Spaces.
For all the amazing work Hollaback! Philly is doing to address harassment that women and queer identified geeks experience, check out their site which includes their amazing anti-street harassment comic book!
See you at the Shoppe!
I had literally just stepped out of my apartment building to go to my bus stop at 745am this morning. I hadn’t even walked the half block to the intersection to cross for my bus stop yet when a man (probably younger than me, I’m 37) walking towards me stopped in my path, took his sun glasses off and said ‘Good morning beautiful’. I quickly walked past him. I didn’t say anything to him and now I wish I had said something like ‘Don’t comment on my appearance’ or something, anything! So sick of my voice being silenced in these situations! I experience street harassment often, as do friends. On the streets, bus shelters, the bus. I am ready to reclaim my streets!
I was walking through Mooney’s bay beach to meet my boyfriend in the parking lot. I purposefully put all my clothes on over my bathing suit to avoid cat-calls. In the park I was passing I saw a large group of men. I quickened my pace but saw one running toward me. He was yelling something like “hey girl” but I ignored him. When he caught up to me he asked me general questions, “what was I doing at the beach” “how was I”. I responded with “you know girls hate being yelled at right?” He said his friends had told him to come talk to me but that they were idiots. I asked him why he did it if he knew that. He responded he was just “playing”. I said I wasn’t interested and he grabbed my arm. I gave him the dirtiest look I could manage and eventually he disappeared. I never told my boyfriend that he grabbed my arm. I received no cat calls on the way back to the beach, armed with a man. This needs to stop.
While leaving Sexapalooza tonight, I was getting a drink from the water fountain. A man walked by to use the washroom and said, “I like the way you drink that water”. I jumped up to say “excuse me’ when e continued into the bathroom laughing. As I was getting into my car, a car of men drove by again yelling, ” I like the way you drink”.
As a survivor of numerous sexual assaults and too many experiences with cat calling, I had enough. After confrontation infront of a crowded building with many by-standards, much yelling was done. During this time, I found I was faced against a group of military men as I yelled to them about respect for women. I got an apology after this, which clearly was not accepted. The fact that I was sexually harassed by these men REPEATEDLY can not be erased by a “sorry”. As the confrontation continued, one man (ONE man) from the crowd stepped in to advise me to walk away, they’re not worth my time.
Although I am sure his intentions were good. I feel that telling a woman who has been sexually harassed twice by a group of men to “walk away” allows the harassers to avoid responsibility for their actions. It also made me feel as though I am to once again, walk away from someone who has intentionally made me feel uncomfortable in my own space. The harassers then proceeded to call the man a “faggot” because he was wearing a kilt. When I confronted them about using the term “faggot”, he explained he has a gay brother which allows him to use this term. This all happened while a crowd of by-standards watched. Not one word was said by anyone. The men then returned to into their vehicle and once again yelled, “I like the way you drink”.
Such a short sentence that those men have no idea how much it affected me.